On the other hand, you say that you love him and perhaps you feel you should stay because of those feelings. Perhaps you feel you can support him and help him though his drinking problems. Perhaps you are afraid of losing that love.

However, you cannot change him. Only he can change himself. He has first to admit to a drinking problem and then do something to correct it. Alcohol is a very powerful adversary and he probably could not overcome his problem alone. He would need help and support but this help and support should come from professionals, not from you on your own.

Leaving him, might only make his drinking worse. However, you cannot have him back with this problem and the violence. You cannot live with a man who scares you in this way. You need to make these fears clear to him.

So, what should you do ?

Try to find professional support for him. Move away for your own safety and peace but perhaps give him the option of coming back if he can overcome his alcohol problem and the violence ( with the professional help) in, say, a year from now.